Christmas Letter


  
Christmas has always been a family affair. Two thousand years ago, two thousand miles from here, our Father which art in heaven sent His one and only son so that we might be adopted into the family of God.
The first time I heard the Christmas story it was from my parents, and what made me listen wasn’t so much what they said, but how they said it. They sat my sisters and I down in the living room, looked us in the eye, and told us that Jesus was God’s special Christmas gift to us. “Once upon a time,” they said, “a long, long time ago, in a far away place called Bethlehem, Mary and Joseph made their way through the dark of night. And now Mary was pregnant, great with child, and when the time came for the child to be born, she gave birth to a son and they called his name Jesus, because he would save his people. And that’s us,” they said, “we are God’s people, we’re part of His family.”
The told us all about the shepherds, and the angels, and the magi, and the star, and we could tell that they believed it deeply, and so we believed it too. My guess is that you could tell a similar story because faith is very often passed down from one generation to the next.
Families were always part of God’s plan. We’re supposed to learn from those who are older, and teach those who are younger, and even when we find ourselves neck-deep in the darkness we’re never alone because we can count on them, and we can count on God, no matter what.
Nothing’s better when it works out like it’s supposed to, and nothing’s worse when it doesn’t. Alcoholism, addiction, abandonment, and abuse are all too common in the world today, and at Belay we work with the kids who live in the fall out of all that.  A few weeks ago, my dad gave the talk at Tuesday’s club, and he used the parables of the lost coin, the lost sheep, and the lost boy to talk about families and the family of God. Afterwards, I noticed that Roberto was crying and when I talked with him one on one he told me that his father had walked out on the family.  I listened to his story and assured him that his Father in heaven loved him, and was always there for him, and then we prayed together.
There are many far too many Robertos each week at Belay. We listen, we love, we teach, and then we get a chance to share the love of Jesus with a lost and broken world. As we enter this Christmas Season I wanted to thank you for partnering with me in this ministry, and wish you and your family a very Merry Christmas!
Kate 
For unto you is born this day in the city of David a Savior, who is Christ the Lord!” Luke 2:11

August in a Nutshell



I know I said earlier that my goal was to update this blog 2 times a month....and then August hit and got away from me and here we are almost mid September and I haven't updated...so here goes! 

Tara and I took the girls to the Hudsonville Fair one night.  My original intentions was to take them to Ottawa County but that afternoon we had a little mishap with Adams boat getting a hole in the hull, and it turned into a longer afternoon than any of us anticipated.  Luckily for us there is always another fair around the corner in the summer.  We always went to Hudsonville when we were kids.  The Knoll Family would take us and it was always something that I looked forward to each year.  Grace loved the 4-H barns, especially the horse barns.  She didn't care it their heads or their rear ends were hanging out she was going to pet them all!  Jackie liked the rides, but she LOVED the games.  Even more when she as winning....she is named after Grandma Jackie after all. 

The good news is I got  new carpet...the bad news is the reason for new carpet is some bed bugs hitched ride home with me and though the would take up residence at my house.  I don't think so!  Gross!  Thanks to Orkin and my parents help, I think we have the problem under control.  Something I hope you NEVER have to experience but if you do call ORKIN...not cheap but guarantee to get rid them! I also was on jury duty for the month of August.  I ended up having to go in and actually got selected for a case.  It was a very interesting process.  It was a very difficult case for many reasons and I have thought a lot about it since.  It will be something that sticks with me for a long time.  I have a new found respect for the court system in this country, for how it works and for all of the people who help to make it work each day...but I am very glad that my part is done. 

I can't believe that school started this week.  I guess I am ready for it, and a more regular schedule.  It will be good to see the kids on a more regular basis.  I getting excited for our after school club to start and some new things that we are going to try this year.  Stay tuned..more to come on that later!  I am excited to welcome my cousin Ross home from Colorado next week and have him around a family functions!  Also, you know my favorite time of year is right around the corner...the most wonderful time of year....pumpkins and Halloween!

A Princess WhiteCaps Game

When I looked at the schedule for the White Caps this spring and saw that there was a "Princess Game" I knew that was the game to take Jackie and Grace to.  Jackie is into anything Princess, Grace she could care less as long as there are hotdogs at the game she is happy!  We got to 5th 3rd Ballpark at 11:30 to make sure we had all the Princess time that Jackie wanted. 


Here is Jackie and Grace with Cinderella, the Step Sisters, and Fairy Godmother. 


I love this picture of Grace, she loves to yell right now and here she is yelling at me trying to take her picture!  Also notice that my parents are each holding a helmet full of Dippin Dots.  Jackie remembered this from last year and had to have the helmet....just like Grandma Jackie, she would be so proud!  


Although there was not much watching of the game, we had a great time!  My dad ordered the tickets and picked a great spot!  It was a fun family day (we missed Tara and Adam...we'll have to go again!)!  I am looking forward to going with Abby and Austin and Ava in a couple weeks! Go White Caps (they did win the game by the way, which is more than I can say for the Tigers yesterday!)

Summer Stuff

Wow I can't believe it is almost already!  Memorial Day was a great time over at Abby's house, the weather held and we were able to be outside.  Probably my favorite part of the day was the picture that Abby took of our family including my 93 yr. old Grandpa Ed who is a WWII veteran!  It was last minute and kind of thrown together but that shows how talented Abby is because I think the picture turned out great (or WONDERFUL as Grandpa Ed would say)!


Last week was Belay Youth Ministry's week at Camp!  I know that sometimes it is difficult for the counselors at Camp Geneva having some of our kids the first week, but I also know that all of the students that were out there last week had a great time, and their lives will be forever changed.  It is so fun to see the progression of the week, Monday morning they are hardly awake and really don't know if they are going to like this and by Saturday they are exhausted from all the fun that they have had and don't really want to go home!  My favorite is to watch them do the Challenge Island Activities. I love to see the sense of accomplishment when they reach beyond what they thought they could do.  While I was out on the island one day watching the climbing, one of the girls came up to me, and I could just sense that she was soaking it all in, she said "Kate, you want to know something, we are Women of the Word!" I thought cool, and then she kept going, "God made us beautiful on the inside and out, and HE thinks we are beautiful and that's all that matters!" Her counselor looked at me and I could see tears in her eyes.  Being made and remade by God and I know this girl was experiencing that last week.   




I can't help but think about Grandma Jackie this time of year, Flag cookies are out, I saw the flag tootsie rolls, and all the fireworks displays around!  I also thought about her Saturday night as the Tigers played SO BAD, and then on Sunday when they had their own HomeRun Derby in New York, she would have loved that!  I am looking forward to hanging out at Abby's next weekend, playing with the kids at the beach, making guacamole, and hanging out with Family, it's ALWAYS a good time! 

Belay Golf Outing

The Golf Outing Trailer from Kate Stouten on Vimeo.


The Belay Youth Ministry Golf Outing is Monday, July 13th at Diamond Springs.  I'd love to invite you to be a part of this great event.  For more information shoot me an email, give me a call or check out our website.

No Camel Tea for You Katie!






Saturday morning I woke up watched the weather, said a prayer for Kelly who was running the Riverbank Run in the rain by herself and got ready to go watch her!  When I got to the bathroom I realized I had a red itchy rash on my arm....the first thing I thought was Poison Ivy (I have had it more times than I care to admit and sometimes I feel like if the wind is blowing right I will get it)....I hadn't really been outside all that much and definitely not in any brush so that was ruled out....I didn't feel sick so I figured it was probably an allergic reaction to something.....so I started to think what is different?  Then it hit me, I had some chamomile tea and I had never had that before....so I go to the internet and realize it's in the Ragweed Family....I am allergic to ragweed!  A few doses of Benadryl and some anti itch lotion and the rash was gone....Who Knew!  I was telling Kelly and Tara the story later on Saturday and Jackie over heard and she said, "No more Camel Tea for you Katie!" and boy is she right!

Believe 2015

Believe is a weekend event that is just for middle school students put on by Christ in Youth.  Every year in April this event is held at the DeVos Field house at Hope College.  This year Belay took 11 students and 5 leaders to Believe. 


The whole event centered around being "after" God's heart, using the story of David.  The speaker was great, his name was Jeff Whalling, he is from Pepperdine University.  He has been in Youth Ministry for 20 years and you can tell.  The minute he got on stage the kids were locked in.  He was funny and a good story teller.  The coolest part of his talk was at the beginning of each session he would say, "what do you care about?" and all of the students would respond in unison "what God cares about." 

The band was great also and kept the worship high energy and loud so the teens really enjoyed it! My two favorite songs that they did was a Jeremy Riddle song called furious and one of their own songs called Found! 

Friday night we stayed at Camp Geneva.  We had high hopes of doing a bon fire but unfortunately it was raining when we arrived!  I know that several of the students were so excited to get to Camp Geneva to find out where they will be staying for a week this summer and have a glimpse of what awaits them later this year! 

Overall it was a great weekend!  Thanks to all who helped to make this event possible!  





Happy Birthday Jackie! (a little early)

Jackie's birthday is April 5th which happens to be Easter this year!  Kelly and I decided that we were going to get her a bike this year.  The next couple weekends I am the Easter Bunny at Tip Toes (come on down to Holland and see the Bunny (me!) for free, bring your camera 10a-2p) so we decide to take her last weekend to get the bike.  When we picked her up she was so excited and SURE that she wanted a Rainbow Dash bike.  We went to Target and she talked the whole way, as we turned the corner to the bike aisle she saw the Disney Princess bike and it was over....that was the one she wanted and there really was no need to look at anything else!  We got the bike home and Adam helped put it together and off she went.  I was surprised at how fast she picked it up!  Hopefully the weather will warm up a bit so that Tara and Adam don't freeze standing outside watching her!  Happy Birthday Jackie!  Aunt Kate and Aunt Kelly love you tons!  So fun to watch you ride your bike!




March Already!

In some ways I can't believe it's March already, (those days are sunny ones, and don't involve the words snow or arctic blast).  I always know we are getting closer to Spring when my parents go to Florida, they go the same time every year, and usually the weather here is not good when they are gone.  My dad will call and say things like it's beautiful here, and we are in paradise, meanwhile I'll be looking out the window at snow and sleet trying to be happy for them.  Here is the picture that they sent yesterday in the middle of the snow.....

Glad your having fun Mom and Dad and Paul and Cheryl... Dad put on some sunscreen and a hat!  My sister Tara has had a rough last couple weeks, Jackie was home sick with a stomach bug and then it passed to Grace and now to Adam, praying Tara doesn't get it and they all return to being healthy real soon!  I saw 50's in the 10 day forecast this morning and the sun is shining so I'll take it!  Hang on Michiganders, I think we are through the worst of it!

Grace Turns Two

Last weekend was Gracie's Birthday....she turned 2 on Valentine's Day! No blizzard or windchill warnings were going to keep us from celebrating! Grace is funnier than ever, her favorite food is dark chocolate and she know who to go to to get it....Papa! I love when she says, "Oh Yeah!" It was a fun party, they always get a little crazy at the end with all those kids running around hopped up on cake and ice cream! Kelly and I got her a wagon, hopefully we will come out of this polar vortex and she will be able to use it! Tara told me that when she asked Grace where she wanted to go for her birthday dinner she said Costco for a hotdog. She really does love hotdogs! Your too funny Frannie!




With it being Fat Tuesday this week, we bought Pazcki's for the kids at Club. Let me tell you Wesco has some good Pazcki's! We also got a new game for club, it's call 9 square in the air! It is a cross between volleyball and 4 square! We had a little hiccup getting it set up but thanks to Ty we got it set up. The kids loved it, it really is a fun game to play and you don't have to be all that athletic to get it! I loved watching the volunteers get in there and play with the kids!
Mom and Dad are off to Florida tomorrow and I have to say I am a bit jealous. I am sick of this weather, as I am sure everyone else around here is too! Well at least Tigers Spring Training starts today! That must mean that we are getting closer to seeing the sun more and some warmer weather...right?


I Miss You Big Hotdog

I'm sitting here half crying an half laughing thinking of my Grandma at 80 yrs old being a giant hotdog for Halloween! She sure was one of a kind! What other Grandma's out there would take the hose through the house and up the stairs to shoot the neighbors when having a water fight, or play ball with you (and yell at you if you didn't throw it hard to her....don't go easy on me she'd say), not to mention be at all your softball games (with gum and licorice for my team) heckling the umpires! She was the fun Grandma and 5 years ago was the last time I talked to her, she was going out to shovel (for the old people at her complex)....sometime it seems like just yesterday, and other times it feels like she has been gone for so long. Grandma Jackie was my best friend and I miss her so! I am glad she is in heaven with Grandpa and Jesus, and I am sure that she is bowling with Grandma Audrey, but I still miss her tons. I wonder sometimes if she was still here what she would have been for Halloween, or what trouble we would have gotten into, would she have the newest iphone/ninetendo (of course!). I know she would love watching Jackie play Wii (Jackie wants to win just as bad as Grandma Jackie!), she'd be laughing at Grace eating ice cream and making a mess, she'd be nervous about Austin cause he is a dare devil, and she would love to watch Ava do her Elsa impression! I am lucky to have had my Grandma in my life for so long, and I am so grateful for that! I have so many fun and funny memories with her, I loved her so much and that is probably why I miss her so much. Miss you Grandma Jackie, love you more!

Welcome to 2015

I know I know it's been forever since I have posted on here....It was a crazy end to the year! We have been really busy at Belay which is great...a few of the highlights include-- our Christmas Arrangement Party @ Macatawa Landscaping (it was a great afternoon, thanks again to Mark O'Neil and Joel and Darcy Bareman!), a student gave his life to Christ at our last regular club of 2014 which was AWESOME, we gave away 40 meals to the students who attended our Christmas Party, and sponsored several families for Christmas, thanks for supporting Belay Youth Ministry and me! My dad got sick right before Christmas, they thought it was his gallbladder but then he got the Flu, and then about a week later ended up having his gallbladder taken out. Oh Joybells as Grandma Jackie would say, he is very happy to put that all behind him and start fresh in 2015! Christmas highlights include seeing Jackie and Grace open up presents, they are both so different. At first Jackie was so slow I thought we would be there til June! They got a huge doll house from Kelly, some fairy doll things from my mom and dad that they love, and sleeping bags from me, I'm hoping to take them out camping (even if it is in the backyard) this summer! Aunt Fran turned 95 last weekend and we had a pizza party to celebrate! I think she had a lot of fun and was happy to get some new granny panties to cover her fanny! Love you Frannie! I gave Jackie my Wii, I thought she might like it and it would give her something to do when it's so cold outside. Sunday I gave her the balance board and Wii Fit....she and Grace love it, but Tara says that Adam is the best at the hula hooping, I requested a video but have yet to see one! I hope that you all have had a great Christmas and Happy New Year! My goal is to post on this blog at least twice a month...Aunt Cheryl since I know you still look at this you might have to help remind me!